why does my husband always say i'm 'too sensitive' when i try to talk about my feelings?

Asked by weary_husband_39

ok so this keeps happening and i need to know if im crazy or not. every time i bring up something that hurt me, even calmly, like not yelling or crying (well sometimes crying lol) he just says im too sensitive and shuts the convo down. like last week i told him it stung when he made a joke about my cooking in front of his brother, and instead of even acknowledging it he just went "god youre so sensitive, i was joking" and walked off to go watch tv. it happens with almost anything now so i've started just... not saying stuff anymore. which i know isnt great either. i dont think im overreacting but after hearing it enough times you start to second guess yourself yk? has anyone dealt with this and figured out how to actually get through to a partner who does this instead of just shutting down the conversation. did it ever change for you guys or is this just how some people are wired