How do I actually win my husband back over?

honestly, forget the big grand gesture for now. flowers are nice but they don't fix distance, small consistent stuff does. pick one thing: eat dinner together without phones, or take a walk after dinner, just the two of you, few times a week. no big talks required at first, just being near each other again without pressure. distance usually creeps in from a hundred small missed moments, so you close it the same way, one small moment at a time. give it a few weeks before you judge if it's working, it won't feel dramatic right away and that's fine. also ask him what he's noticed too, not to fix things instantly but so he knows you're actually paying attention. you're not behind or failing here, a few cold months doesn't mean it's broken, it just means it needs some tending.